Santa Cruz Boardwalk, California...an icon of the Northern California coast |
I first stepped foot on US soil in the Los Angeles
International airport where I had a short layover before heading to San
Fransisco. As I headed for the baggage pick-up on my way to customs, an
enormous billboard caught my attention.
It was a picture of downtown LA at night on fast forward and had
different messages fade in and out. I
caught it just at the moment when it read “You Belong Here”. It was one of those moments where I
thought,…..“Are you talking to me?” “Is
there anyone else looking at this billboard right now?” I went to take out my camera, but it was too
late. I felt like I was Kevin Costner in
the movie, field of dreams where the corn field whispers to him, “If you build
it,….he will come!” There was a reason I
was suppose to see that message on the billboard. I went to get out my camera and take a
picture of the it, but it had already changed.
I waited for about 5 minutes for the billboard to cycle through the
messages, but it never reappeared. Funny.
The billboard message sent me into some deep thinking,….Do I
really belong here? I haven’t felt like I’ve belonged in the States for ages,
but perhaps, this is the time in my life when I finally will feel like I belong. I’m
just as anxious as everyone else who has asked me, “So Melissa, how does it
feel to be back in the States?” It’s
been about a year and a half since I last visited, although I usually come back
twice a year for about a month or 5 weeks total. I haven’t lived here full time since my early
twenties.
I set off for Spain shortly after I graduated from college
and life ever after changed dramatically for me. I received The Ambassadorial Scholarship from
The Rotary Foundation for the 2003-04 school year and I left for Spain August
23, 2003. My scholarship was suppose to
be for a year, but I ended up staying ten!
I left for Barcelona at a crucial time in my life. I was 22 years old and just started to
discover who I was and what made me happy in this immense world. In college, I had studied abroad for a
semester in England and a summer in Spain. Life abroad had its appeal for me.
In a foreign country everything was a novelty! Menial tasks like buying a
croissant and coffee to taking the metro to the center of town turned into one
big adventure! I always said that I would come home when the novelty wore off
and/or I get bored…..but guess what?
Bored just isn’t a word in my vocabulary, and with such a positive
outlook on life, the adventures and fascinating experiences were never ending
and Barcelona ended up becoming home. I
loved speaking a different language, in fact, I picked up my third in Catalunya
becoming fluent in Catalan after a few years.
I also fell in love, which was reason enough to extend my stay, but
regardless of my relationship, I had created my life and settled in
Barcelona. I completed a second
university degree in contemporary jewelry design, was giving private English
classes, and started working at the Benjamin Franklin International School.
I guess you could say that I’m finally making my way home
now, after living in Barcelona for 10 years, although I don’t have intentions
on staying here for good. You know what happens though when I say “never”, so I
hesitate to make that statement! I come
back frequently to visit my family, as it seems to continually grow with the
addition of nieces and nephews every few years.
However, for those visits, I stay in my bubble- keeping to the places
where my family lives and spending the majority of time with them. I haven’t actually gone on vacation in the
states for quite some time, and if I don’t intend on living here in the future,
I want to make sure I see the places that have always interested me. That is why I chose to do the massive tour of
the West Coast and the National Parks on my bike trip.
Therefore, The Loong Way Home, is the first time in a long
time, when I will have the chance to explore and get to know the United States
from a unique perspective. I’m no longer
living here, but I’m not from Spain,….which is why in my mind, the question
“Where are you from?” is all relative. I
love asking my students this question at the start of the year because mom is
usually from one country, dad, another, they were sometimes born in a different
country and now living in Spain. It was
fascinating to see where they consider “home”.
I was born and raised in Oregon, surely my passion for the outdoors and
my love of nature came from here, but really, my time in Barcelona impacted me,
and the person I am today. That is why
it was so ironic to see the billboard in the Los Angeles airport. I have always felt like I belong in
Barcelona. The billboard just confirmed
my current philosophy in life, that is, to live in the moment, and enjoy my
present surroundings, which are now in the United States.
That is a half sandwich,...I don't want to see the size of a whole piece of bread! |
A one person Creme Brulee,.....it could have fed a small family, except that the Pritchard's have a big appetite! |
It is easy for me to be critical of the States living
abroad. Many times when I come back to
visit my family, I feel completely “out of it”, like a foreigner in my native
country! My first impressions are always very superficial. Everything is so big,
spacious, fast! A “small” drink in the
States is a large in Europe or Australia.
Portions are so large at restaurants here that the phenomenon of a
“doggie bag” exists, something I have completely forgotten about living
abroad. Stores and restaurants never
seem to close in comparison to Spain.
There is everything and anything at the tip of your fingertips…..any
time of day. Talking about fingertips, I find it fascinating that so much here
is automatic. I have a heart attack
almost every time the toilet starts flushing automatically after me before I
have a chance to pull up my pants! All you do is stick your hands under the
faucet to start the water and get soap.
You wave your hand in front of the paper towel machine, and voila, out
come the towels. Car doors are all
automatic too-you try to close them manually and they work against you!
Anything goes.....my brother driving with Penny sitting on his lap, what a laugh! |
The sky is the limit to meet people’s wants and needs here
in the United States. For instance, you walk into a grocery store in Spain and
you have your choice of white bread or wheat.
Here, you walk into a grocery store and there are 10 different varieties
of white bread, 10 different loaves of wheat, and 20 other types of bread from
enriched flour, to low carb, to gluten free and low “G.I”…..the choices are endless. The cereal aisle is the most fascinating for
me! It’s unbelievable how many
different types of cereal there are, do you really need so many choices?!? For someone like me who gets easily
overwhelmed with decision-making, well, you can imagine what happens.
I was delighted to see the huge selection of potatoes,....reminded me of Cambodia! |
The selection of tropical fruit in the non-organic section......incredible! |
My first day in the back here, my friend took me to a famous
grocery store in Berkeley, called the Berkeley Bowl, known for it’s vast
selection of fresh produce and organic goods.
I couldn’t believe my eyes as I meandered through the organic fruit and
vegetable aisles. I was completely in
awe with all the produce. In fact, I
thought that was the entire store selection of fruits and vegetables,….little
did I know that the non-organic fruits and vegetables, which was even larger,
was right around the corner! I had
flashbacks of when I took my ex-boyfriend to the supermarket for the first
times in Oregon when he visited, it became an all day event, no joke! In fact one time, I just left him to peruse,
and he walked home at his own leisure. Now
it all makes sense!
Who would have thought I would find Jack Fruit in the States,....it comes from Mexico, but they have it! |
I’m also really out of it with the pop culture here. I guess that is my own fault, since I don’t
watch TV or the news. I don’t even
download TV series on my computer or keep up with the new release movies. Call me crazy, but I find other ways to
entertain myself. My music tastes are
about 5 years behind, and I don’t pick up on the local lingo. Walking out of a restaurant the other night
after having dinner with some high school friends, a guy made a comment
referring to us as “cornbread” since we were white. I actually had to have them explain the term
to me. It’s like I need a translator
here at times. That night I also told my
parents I would walk home from the restaurant to the hotel through town. They would have nothing of it. They thought the neighborhood was
unsafe. Interesting right? But I haven’t thought about my safety being
in jeopardy for a long time; it hasn’t really been an issue for me anywhere on
my trip. I give people the benefit of
the doubt and trust them. I hope the
same rule applies here in the States…..
I'm confident that people also value trust here....... |
There are a ton of fruit stands along the road, lots run by Latinos so I can speak plenty of Spanish with them |
The biggest shocker upon arriving this time is the amount of
Spanish speakers I have encountered. I
love it! My life on a bike revolves around the service industry- I’m constantly
visiting cafes, restaurants, and fruit stands, and so far, here, that industry
is dominated by the Latino culture. It
is wonderful for me because after 8 months of being on the road and not
encountering more than a handful of Spanish speakers, I get to use my Spanish
throughout a good majority of my day. I
must say when I first start up a conversation they are pretty shocked to hear
Spanish coming out of the mouth of a blonde-hair, blue-eyed girl. After asking of course, how it is that I
speak Spanish, they don’t hesitate to continue the conversation in their
language. I love it! Needless to say, my
head is a complete discombobulation of Spanish, English, and Catalan….there is
a total language chaos jostling around up there! Socorro!!!!
Like I said, it is easy for me to be critical of the United
States, but what fun would it be to spend the next 6 months of my trip
constantly comparing and criticizing this country? To tell you the truth, I’m excited to be back
to the United States and have the opportunity to spend more than 4 or 5 weeks
visiting. Now, I will actually have time
to just be, live, and experience this country again, after being gone for so
many years. I’m much more confident and
mature than I was 12 years ago when I left the States to live abroad. I know who I am, what I like, and what I need
to make me happy. I’m curious to see if
I will settle into a way of life and routine that fulfills my needs and makes
me happy. So far I’m still in the a bit
of shock, sorting out how things work.
This US Standard measurement system is going to fry my brain with all
the converting to kilometers and kilograms…. But hey, that is all part of the
fun of traveling and getting used to life here is no different than the way I
start out in every other country I’ve been to so far on my trip! Here we go again, country number 25!
PS. I say part 1 because at some point, when the moment presents itself, I will disclose more information about the history to how and why I chose to live in Spain for so long!